Four of us take stock of our personal arcs towards greater emotional sobriety. Happiness, as Herb Kaighan frames it, isn’t a product of the work we do. It’s a byproduct of our relationships with a life of meaning and purpose, as well as our contributions to humanity. Thom advises self-compassion coupled with personal responsibility - so that we’re keeping ourselves accountable but through a language of love instead of hate. Allen underlines the fact that emotional sobriety isn’t something we arrive at passively. We need to foreground it to bring it into being.
Thom’s Nutshell: Step 16: Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of someone else. I can’t say I wasn’t warned. They told me to...
Waiting for the other shoe to drop truly puts our ability to regulate to the test, as it reminds us how little we control,...
The first of Thom's brief, tutorial-style "nutshells" demonstrating principles and practices of Emotional Sobriety. This one teaches us how to recognize the critical or...